The first dance – after bridal party introductions or after cutting of the cake?

Should we have the first dance after the bridal party introductions or after the cutting of the cake? This is one of those questions that brides ask while they are planning their wedding.

While it is entirely proper to do it either way, there are pros and cons to having your first dance after the bridal party introductions. The pros being that your guests are already focused on you after the bridal party introduction, and this is a dramatic time to have your first dance while all your guests are still present. The cons being that this is one of the highlights of the reception, and then you are going to stop all the excitement to sit down and  have dinner. Many guests will think that they have already seen you dance so they may leave at the end of dinner.

When you save the first dance until after dinner, this is the time to engage your guests in your reception celebration. The first dance will be followed usually by the father/daughter dance, the mother/dance, and then an all dance number which kicks off the dancing for the evening!

Remember it is your choice and the bride should always have things in the manner she would like them on her wedding day!

First Dance

The wedding toast should not become a roast!

The tradition of the wedding toast is well founded within our culture. It is to acknowledge  the newlywed couple, and to share a positive moment honoring them on this grand occasion. It is typical for the best man to give his toast first. The wedding dj will act as the toastmaster and keep everything flowing smoothly.

This is to be taken seriously, and should be prepared for ahead of time. It is fine to have some goodhearted humor, but this is not the time to share embarrassing stories about the bride and groom. In recent time, it has become tradition for the maid of honor to also share a toast.

It is not uncommon for the parents to say something at this point followed by the groom and or bride.

This is not the time to open the microphone to the whole room. The celebration should continue at this point.

Disclaimer: However, it your wedding so you may choose to open it up to whomever you want. (You don’t have to follow tradition!)